Afraid you're right--Again: it doesn't HAVE to be that way, but the signs are lining up in that direction.
And I repeat here what I note elsewhere, what is so frustrating to the fans, what makes us so angry is that it doesn't take any kind of Football Guru to recognize the central problems and what to do about them.
The only debate THERE is how far you go. Most see that Brantley must be sat down. Even more agree that Addazio should be moved out of the OC position, at LEAST.
I am among the still relative few who come right out and place responsibility for both of these, along with assorted other decisions, right where they have always rested--with our Head Coach, Urban Meyer. HE can clear away the confusion, contradictions and give a good start to "building it back up" by simply acting like a Head Coach and make the changes that so clearly need to be made. Instead, he's got all these excuses and rationales, and at a certain point I just want to scream, "Enough!"
I think he's been avoiding doing ANYTHING that makes him uncomfortable, especially when it involves having to demote or fire a friend and/or going back on a promise--but that's part of the job, Coach! In the end, though, it doesn't matter what we think or he says, what goes for the players ultimately goes for the coaches too: "Either you do your job well or we get someone else in here to do it better."
I'm not saying that here as a way of judging Meyer; I AM reminding you all that it is HIS job to apply it to his players AND coaches. Maybe the program-wide breakdown began when somehow that simple, unequivocal rule was blurred, eventually replaced by that ridiculous "seniors-over-everyone" pecking-order in starting and playing time this season. When did Urban Meyer adopt the Ron Zook touchy/feely "I really love you guys"-approach to his veterans, especially the seniors? Maybe it was already happening last year, when the out-of-the-blue screw-ups by seniors and high-rated juniors became more and more common. If that one by Dunlap didn't alone and itself CAUSE our downfall in that week's SEC Championship Game, it was certainly emblematic of a kind of "I'm Great--Where will I Go In the Draft?"-selfishness and preoccupation that definitely DID. It carried into THIS year too. A lot has been said about "the modern world" and "a coach can't have eyes everywhere", but maybe it IS true that a certain benign friendliness with his upperclassmen replaced the formerly uniform front of Reserved Disciplinarian he showed everyone equally in the past--and that has led to exactly these sorts of problems. It may also have likewise caused the problems in the locker room earlier this season, leading to the rift between the upperclassmen and the freshmen--a rift that although mainly cooled was still there throughout the season, soothed mainly by the freshmen finally getting some meaningful onfield time in which they could and often did get to show flashes of why they were "highly touted" in the first place, and that they were the future of this Gator team.
That brings up your point about "the players taking charge". While I believe we'll have the talent to do that as effectively as any team could, you know as well as I that is a recipe for mediocrity at BEST. To say that we have so much speed, talent and depth, that if they as much as possible IGNORE our inept coaches and do the things they know work, following the lead of on-the-field leaders they can win more games than the alternative is to consign us to another 8-win/4-loss season AT BEST; whereas the argument "We'd have had a LOSING record otherwise", while probably true, is the only consolation. It also underlines once again how quickly we might INSTEAD begin our road back to excellence, if our Head Coach were to make the hard choices, "bite-the-bullet" and see it through to LEAD the team, program and all of Gator Nation in the tough work ahead.